You are not alone
What is domestic abuse?
“Any incident or pattern or incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse: psychological, physical, sexual, financial and emotional.” (Home Office Definition)
Domestic abuse does not always need to be violent. It can include behaviour that frightens, controls or belittles someone. It isn’t always women that are abused; both men and women can be victims and survivors. Domestic abuse can also happen in lesbian and gay partnerships. There are also other forms of domestic abuse, for example forced marriage, honour-based violence and female genital mutilation.
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship, there is lots of help available. Please remember you are not alone. You can talk to your doctor, health visitor or midwife for advice. You can also visit websites such as Womens Aid and Next Link for more information and sources of support. These sites also give valuable advice on covering your tracks online if you are concerned about your abuser following your internet use.
Support and information
If you are concerned about anything mentioned above and would like to talk to someone, you can speak to your Housing Officer or a member of the Tenancy Impact Team by calling the office on 0117 942 4600.
Here are some more useful contacts and websites:
- Women can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247. This is a freephone number available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- Men can call the Men’s Advice Line free on 0808 801 0327 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm) or ManKind on 01823 334 244
- In an emergency, call 999
- To share information anonymously call Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111
- To share concerns about a child, call First Response on 0117 903 6444
- Citizens Advice has lots of information and advice if you think a friend or family member is experiencing abuse
- For information and advice about FGM you can visit Forward UK
- For information and advice about forced marriage you can visit BAVA
- Bristol Zero Tolerance – Bristol Zero Tolerance is an initiative set up by Bristol Women’s Commission working towards Bristol becoming a city free from gender-based violence, abuse, harassment and exploitation. There is lots of information on their webiste about all forms of gender based violence and where to get help.
Concerned about a neighbour?
If you have concerns about a neighbour, we urge you to contact your Housing Officer for advice and to flag your concerns. Keeping people safe is everyone’s business. You can also speak to Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111 – who can pass on information to the Police anonymously. However if you think there is a risk of immediate harm you must contact the Police by calling 999.
Remember that domestic abuse can also have long-lasting affects on children in a home – even if they do not directly witness any violence or abuse. 62% of children living with domestic abuse are physically harmed themselves, so it is especially important you share your concerns with someone. You can call First Response on 0117 903 6444. The advisers will listen to your concerns and take steps to protect the child if necessary. If you think the child is at immediate risk, please call 999.